When I first encountered this book, I thought this book is about how we can make a meaningful conversation with some strangers or someone we already know. I just realized I was wrong after a few pages into this book. The author specifically explained that this book answer 3 questions:
1. How do I talk to someone who’s defensive?
2. What do I say when someone belittles me?
3. How do I assert my boundaries?
and here are the answers to these questions: say it with control, confidence, and to connect.
Okay… not exactly what I’m looking for.
But maybe it can be useful when for example in business setting, I encounter a difficult person. Instead of my usual resort -let them be, just focus on the objective- maybe this time being friendly to them can be a good strategy. To be honest I haven’t finished chapter 1 yet, but so far I think his method only works if the person we encounter is inherently good. If the person we talk to is hostile to us, then there’s no way we can have meaningful conversation with them. Moreover, it’s pointless if we try to change his opinion about us.
Maybe there’s more to this book than what I imagined. I will finish reading it and give the review later.
But why is it always us who see through the keyhole into people’s world? I also want people to see my hole (pun intended).
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